We all want to do what is best for our children. Our own upbringing, society around us, and the latest theories of specialists in every field all affect how we raise our children. As Muslim mothers, we experience much soul searching in caring for our children. Their everyday behavior, their spiritual development and their near and distant future, all are of utmost importance to us. To fulfill this at times daunting task, we need the following:
A clear idea
of what Allah wants of us in this role.
A good grasp
of the fard ayn* knowledge of Islam.
*this is the body of knowledge that is mandatory for each Muslim to acquire
A familiarity with
the developmental stages of growth: spiritual, emotional, cognitive, social and physical.
A continuous turning
to Allah asking for His help and guidance concerning this role.
A clear course
of action to rely on in times of difficulty.
It goes without saying
that patience, enjoyment, planning, watchfulness, maturity and lightheartedness are needed, as well. These are usually embedded in the very makeup of motherhood and are outward expressions of love.